You learn from being positive and self-confident.

Through the last few months, it has been shown as I go through the life review process when and where I was true to myself and where I blocked myself. And you can probably guess it. Yep, when I went on the negative spells, I would not be open to listen and a friend of mine pointed it out. I was listening and meant no disrespect. It may have come across as such. With a more positive confident mood and attitude, I am able to listen with a more open heart and I do appreciate my friend telling me about this trend of mine. I have looked at it and it does happen. Now if we get in one of those moods, we simply stop the conversation. It is all good and it may happen.

Other things happen and with our awareness, we can see where others are coming from…if they are in the right state of mind or if extra level of compassion is needed.  

I recently had a situation with a good friend was telling me what I was going through when I was doing was venting. She went into automatic healing mode and I just let her talk. I later got the feeling, since she wasn’t feeling too well and depress to take her advice with a grain of salt… especially understanding the dynamics of the state of mind she was in. Ouch. She went into a rage over a person standing her up and not returning her calls… She thought she was saving him. That is fine and good, except he didn’t ask to be saved. This is lesson to learn and as healers, we can get in theirs and our own way by interfering in the person’s learning curve. Rescuing and fixing are on the healer’s service unless acted and even then it is not necessary to “take it all on”… not at all. The key healing element here is compassion with understanding of the situation and letting the person have their “aha” moments.  At times, it is good to mention something to the person, yet at other times, if the person is so wrapped up in the “mood” or frame of mind, anything said will simply be rejected and possibly add more wood to the fire. This is when it is best to sit back and listen, yet filtering the energies if you are empathic or sensitive to these energies.

I generally do a deep clearing process after conversations that are intense and I am feeling the effects on myself. If you are feeling drained or if your mood changes into a negative state, it is time to clear the energies. Some of the quick ways are drinking a glass of water with a pinch of sea salt in it. Drink with the intention of clearing any energies and cutting any cords not for the highest good. This generally is all that is needed.

If it is my negative state that is draining, I look at my thoughts and what I am doing at the moment. Deep breathing will ground and center anyone in a moment’s notice, especially if you focus on your heart space.

Your mood, thoughts and feelings are your choice every moment. So the more you choose positive attitude, listening, and discerning the moment, you will gain more confidence in the situation.

A good affirmation I have found is from Peggy Mc Coll (thank you Peggy.):

I have the power to choose positivity. In this moment, I opt to feel faith. I trust myself, in the people around me, and in humanity. I have faith in the Universe and its infinite wisdom.